I think many people mistake Acceptance for Submission. Submitting to what ever is. For me, that’s not at all what I put into Acceptance. Submission is victimhood. Acceptance is taking ownership. Acceptance means to learn to be ok with what is.
The world is unfair.
My hair doesn’t seem to want to grow longer than slightly below my shoulders, however much I would love for even longer hair.
I can sing, but there are some people in my choir who can sing much better than me.
My boss said some really shitty things about me at the last gathering at work.
Submission – would be to make yourself the victim here.
The world is unfair. I am just one person, there’s nothing I can do to make the world a better place.
My hair doesn’t seem to want to grow longer than slightly below my shoulders, however much I would love for even longer hair. Poor me, I will never have the kind of flowing waist-long hair that I see in commercials.
I can sing, but there are some people in my choir who can sing much better than me. I might as well give up singing in my choir, given that I will never be as good as these people.
My boss said some really shitty things about me at the last gathering at work. Its so unfair, he shouldn’t have said those things about me, especially not in front of all my colleagues. I feel so ashamed, what must everyone think of me?
Acceptance – means you see that this is what happened. You accept that this happened, because it did. You accept that the world is unfair, that my hair is the length it is, that I can sing the way I sing, and that my boss said what he said. I cannot make this not have happened. Because it did. The next step to Acceptance, for me, is that I can then work on what I want to happen here. I can make my energy go into making what I want to be, what I want to happen, rather than fight that which is.
The world is unfair. Yes. I get to engage in organizations or causes that work at changing this. I am but one person and I cannot do everything, but I can, and will, do what I can, to leave the world a better place when I am gone.
My hair doesn’t seem to want to grow longer than slightly below my shoulders, however much I would love for even longer hair. Yes. That means I get to be patient, to see if my hair will actually grow longer. I also get to enjoy the fact that my hair is much longer now than it’s ever been since I was a wee lass.
I can sing, but there are some people in my choir who can sing much better than me. Yes. Lucky me! I get to enjoy singing together with these wonderful singers, learn from them, and practice my own singing, so I can be the best singer I can be.
My boss said some really shitty things about me at the last gathering at work. Yes. He must have been in a really bad place within himself, to act that way. What ever that was about within him, it certainly didn’t have anything to do with me.
Acceptance. To accept that which is, in order to be in a better position, stronger, fully loaded, to put all my energy into that which I believe or know can be.
First published on my blog on August 14th, 2016: https://helenaroth.com/doing-gentle-31-acceptance/
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Audio production: Caspian Almerud
Photography: Anders Roos http://www.andersroos.nu/
Soundtrack: Olof Jennfors Ljudtjänst http://jennforsljud.se/