The monthly Zoom in the tankespjärn-community took place this morning (for me. There were participants who were up in the middle of the night to partake. That wowed me!), and counter to past monthly Zoom-calls, this one was topic-less. That is, I hadn’t thought of anything to initiate the conversation… and for the shortest time, there was nothing but silence, as I threw out the invitation to talk about… what?
And the response was just that: INVITATION
So we took the invitation to speak, reflect, ponder, think and sense into the concept of INVITATION, and as always… it makes me astonished both how fast an hour can go (proof of flow-state) and also how much can be experienced in (but) an hour.
A few of the questions popping into my head, as I reflect on all we managed to fit into the one hour:
– When to extend an invitation? (The fear of imposing on others, often makes me send them too late… or not at all.)
– Do I do it enough? (Heck no, is my answer to that question, that’s for sure!)
– Can I write a general invitation that actually makes individuals feel seen and heard, rather than go ”Oh, this is probably not for me”? (See. I just w i l l n o t stop with the shotgun approach, even though I know –Know!– the sniper approach works so much better. Sigh.)
– If extending an invitation is an act of g e n e r o s i t y, what is not extending an invitation then? (This caused a shift in me when I first realized it, thanks to one of the prompts in The Creative’s Workshop. Not enough of a shift to make me be as generous with invitations as I would like to be – because I see myself as a generous person, and I want to show up as one.)
– Once I get someone to take my hand, accepting the invitation, how do I nourish the relationship, making them want to stay in my community? (Do general postings on the i n s i d e of a community suffice? Or do I need to make people in the community feel, on an individual basis, seen and heard on a continuous basis? I guess the latter… Agree?)
And there was more. Much more. Like these, resonating with me:
– Being (personally) invited feels very generous. It makes me feel chosen. (Seeding generosity. Indeed!)
– By invitation only. (How will the tankespjärn-community evolve if –when?– people I do not know, start to show up? Interesting question to ponder!)
Not to mention, this great piece of tankespjärn:
– The more something is n o t for everyone, the more it is for the people it is for.
I know this to be true, as I know, that I, tankespjärn nor the community is for everyone.
This session has also informed me that it’s up to me to extend an invitation to those I know it’s for.
And, as promised: Yes. I extended three personal invitations last night, right before heading off to bed, only to wake up to a new patron! Given this result, insights gained from the Zoom on INVITATION, and more time on my hand, I vow to send out personal invites using the drip by drip-strategy. A drip here, a drip there, over time turns into a heckofa large puddle! (Don’t you just love puddles?)
2 thoughts on “Invitation”
“– Once I get someone to take my hand, accepting the invitation, how do I nourish the relationship, making them want to stay in my community? (Do general postings on the i n s i d e of a community suffice? Or do I need to make people in the community feel, on an individual basis, seen and heard on a continuous basis? I guess the latter… Agree?)”
I think that this is a really good question, and also something for me to really ponder on.
I am glad I could provide you with a dash of tankespjärn!