Wrapping up season two I am filled with gratitude for the experience. All of it. From inviting conversation partners to setting up the first conversations, thoroughly enjoying conversations two and three, experiencing tugs at my heartstrings in conversation four and when finding times for the group reflections, to being a bit lost-for-words during the fifth and final (individual) conversations. At long last, I am brought to this point, where I am writing the episode description for the second and last group-episode.
‘It’s the conversations. That’s what matters, which comes through in spades.’ ~Andy
The insight that these meandering conversations hold value on many levels sweep by like a warm spring breeze, caressing my cheek ever so softly. For me in doing 5×5 deep and honest conversations. For my partners in playful explorative conversation, a dance based on open minds and curious hearts. For listeners feeling as if you are a part of the conversations. Which you are!
‘Conversation is an important part of our lives. And we need to learn to have those [deep] conversations in a way that encourages the thinking process.’ ~Izzy
How do you get deep and honest conversations into your life? How to invite, entice, instigate them, when, where, with whom? With others and/or with yourself?
‘The algorithms don’t really invite tankespjärn at all.’ ~Caspian
Where do you get seeds of enquiry, confusion, excitement to play and dance and create with?
‘Most of the time when I’m speaking, I don’t know how I’m going to finish my sentence. You know, I might have a general sense of what the idea is, but I increasingly find I speak to discover. There is a certain kind of space that’s required for that.’ ~Matthew
You are invited into just such a space, a space where the opportunity for tankespjärn is present, always and already. If, and when, you need nourishment, know that you are welcome to step into that space with me, with us.
The Tankespjärn community provides just such a space–you are welcome to join!
Izzy can be found through RedCheeks
Matthew Word Bain on Medium and Instagram
Caspian Almerud, my behind-the-scenes-man and best buddy
Me and Andy on his podcast, The Gentle Rebel Podcast
Inma (aka Imma) J Lopez, sommelier and writer on Attention
Steve Emery is most easily found on Color Sweet Tooth
Reddy on Twitter (and me on Twitter)
Maybe violence isn’t all that bad?!
Process-oriented therapy with Dominic Bosman Venter
2 thoughts on “54. The algorithms don’t invite tankespjärn. Conversations do. | with Matthew, Andy & Izzy”
Hi Caspian and Helena, for some reason it doesn’t let me listen to it. I can listen the other ones but not this one on this page, I’m listening on Apple, but wanted to let you know 🙂
I love the idea of having conversations with people who are part of your life. Your father, your brother, your neighbour, your childhood friend. Where you are a common denominator, a different you every time because it is the you each of them know. Interesting… even therapeutic?
So interesting, how we think we have a choice in the matter of conversations outside the internet world, I wonder if algorithms are not only on internet, but on our culture, our communities, even in our head. Even as Andy said… even in the podcast. How any of our traumas becomes an algorithm for the community?
And also… I was right now “talking” with Vanessa on LinkedIn about this dancing: we hide and we show up as we are, we hide and we show up as we are, we hide and we show up as we are… That is what animals do all the time, and in my experience with plants… they do that too in a subtle level.