I have high capacity.
A lot of energy.
A well-exercised ability to focus and give it (whatever it is) my all.
But today… Today I bumped up against the edges of my capacity.
With two days of training this weekend, after a jam-packed week with just one evening off, otherwise busy busy busy – a fair description of the last two months as well – it seemed wise and caring to leave the rest of the evening unscheduled…
But no. Not me.
Thirty minutes after the training ended, I had tickets to see Frida – Viva la vida. It turned out to be a movie I enjoyed… and yet… I had a very hard time staying focused. I had a hard time to even stay awake. I was – I am – exhausted. And yet, coming home from the movies I had one more promise to live up to, with a group-call scheduled at 8:45 pm.
I would have been hard-pressed to cancel the movie plans, or try to give my ticket to someone else. And honestly, the thought never even crossed my mind. I don’t know what would have made me go down that route?
The group-call is one which I scheduled after I knew my schedule for the weekend. And it’s the same here. I don’t know what would have me postpone this call? (And having just had it, I am energized, and am happy I did not cancel on it.)
I do not see myself as a person who cancels, which even though I appreciate it as a general trait, is not necessarily a good thing if it’s a fundamental belief of mine, having me not-cancel at the expense of me.
The Upholder in me definitely plays a part here, a leading part even, and from the conversation in the group-call which I just finished, I wonder… how much of this is me being not-gentle towards myself? What does serve me? What would happen if I tried to be less ”follow-through at any cost”-ish?
Perhaps something worth playing around with?
Or.
Let me rephrase that:
Something worth playing around with.
To be continued.
Din energi lyser igenom i allt jag läser av dig. Den är smittande och ger mig energi. Jag hoppas du har dina energikällor också som fyller på dig.
Efter att ha “gått i väggen” ställer jag in ibland och har blivit bättre på att lyssna när kroppen talar.
Oh Yvonne, så fin återkoppling. Tack!
Och jodå. Nog har jag energikällor som fyller mig. Kören! Lindy hop:en! Kortspelsstunderna med barnen! T ex… 💚
Blir spännande att följa! De flesta av mina klienter har samma dilemma … Så vi jobbar mycket med att inte säga ja direkt och att vila i tid. Känner igen mig själv i det här också. Massor!
Mmm. Att låta “det klarna i mellanrummen” är onekligen en god vana att skapa sig!