I am a firm believer (belief, remember, meaning knowing without evidence) that we all do the very best we can, in any given moment. Regardless if that ”best” is any good or not.
I am a mother of two.
There have been moments when I have not been the best mother. And still, however badly I’ve behaved now and then, in the moment, I did the best I could.
In moments when I have been the best mother, the same has been true, I did the best I could.
Even though, asking my kids (or me for that matter) the outcomes from me being a better mother on occasion have likely given way to better and more rewarding outcomes.
That we all do the very best we can, in any given moment is a basic belief of mine.
One I would not want to trade for all the money in the world.
Why, you ask.
I don’t really know this being a belief and all… but there’s something hopeful to it. I meet the world from a viewpoint of trust. I trust, in me, in you, in us, in the world. It’s a way for me to seed… hope, trust, belief, generosity, kindness and love. I remain in trust until proven wrong, and even then it is sometimes hard for me to abandon my trust. Learning to be discerning is important for me, for precisely this reason.
Now, there’s a quote by Maya Angelou that reminds me of this way of being in the world, even though there’s more of a nudge in her message:
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
Inspired by a meander from episode 11 The ability to think for yourself is all but easy of Tankespjärn with Helena Roth, a podcast of meandering conversations, this time with Beverly Delidow. You can find the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts, in both audio (Spotify, Apple, Google and the likes) and video (on YouTube).